Background: Well after many years of considering adoption... we are doing it! We have been matched with an amazing woman who thinks we are the right family to place her unborn daughter with. We are so blessed to have her in our life. As well as her son, boyfriend and his 3 children. We met her online at the very beginning of her pregnancy. We live in neighboring states so we didn't think adoption was possible through our agencies across state lines. At 14 weeks in her pregnancy, we found out it WAS possible. A few weeks later she officially selected us and we have been extremely close since. She is now 26 weeks and I have begun the process of inducing lactation. She is fully supportive of me nursing the baby.
I started the process by searching the web to find resources on inducing lactation and seeing my OBGYN and endocrinologist. I was a bit discouraged at first because the most beneficial sites I found suggested a 6+ month induction time frame for best results. My GYN referred me to Mercy Hospital's lactation department. There I met with a wonderful lady who sat down with me and went over my hopes and the protocols that I found online. She was very happy to hear that I was actually re-lactating since I nursed Isaac 10 years ago. She was hopeful that it would be much easier for me, however we had a road block with the protocol. The protocol still called for 2 drugs to be taken. 1 was an oral birth control (I am using Ocella for the estrogen and progesterone) as well as a drug called domperidone. It is actually a drug used for severe acid reflux and nausea (yay, I have those), but its side effect is increased prolactin. Prolactin is made by the pituitary gland (remember my tumor?... it's gone!). Domperidone is highly recommended by lacation consultants and doctors alike, however it has never been approved by the FDA. It can be prescribed, but because of it's lack of approval, some doctors are nervous to actually write a script. I had to make the decision to order it from another country or take an alternate drug called Reglan which crosses the blood brain barrier and can cause mental illness if taken longer than 3 weeks. I went with ordering domperidone from another country.
With 17 weeks left to go in the pregnancy, I started taking Ocella. I was very nervous because the domperidone may not even come in and 17 weeks was hardly 6 months! I also read more stories about inducing rather than re-lactating after 10 years... so for the last 3 weeks I have been very anxious to see what will even happen. So far I have tolerated the BC very well. I am to skip the placebo pills and continue with just the hormone pills until I stop a few week prior to birth.
Because I nursed Isaac before, my milk glands are already in the state they need to be or apparently it doesn't take much to get them where they need to be. Within days of taking BC, my breasts started to hurt and feel much heavier. I began massaging them daily for about 5 minutes per breast. I began nipple stimulation with the massage and in the shower for a few minutes each day to toughen, stimulate and prepare. I have finally received the domperidone in the mail.... however I have read conflicting reports on how to use it best. Ask Lenore website is the standard protocol used for inducing... it says to take it the entire time you are taking the birth control and eventually wean off it once milk supply is well established. Other sites claim that it has a peak point at 14 days of use and then begins to trail off.
I am having my hysterectomy on Friday of this week... I don't want to start a new drug (especially one I ordered online) before surgery. So I have been strictly trying to raise my prolactin through stimulation as of now. BC is supposed to mimic pregnancy and hinder the milk supply from coming in... however yesterday and today I have seen my first signs of pre-milk. I have been able to hand express a few drops each day out of my right breast. None from the left yet. I think that is a very good sign!
We have 14 weeks left in the pregnancy. I hope to go off the birth control with about 3-4 weeks left (in 10-11 weeks). At which time I will begin taking the domperidone and start pumping instead of just hand stimulation and massaging. I hope this is the right course of action with the results I have already seen... if you have any suggestions, feel free to write! :-)
PS. holding my new nephew and picturing babies nursing and the feeling of them against me seems to help. My breast seem to get more tender. I have definitely gotten far more emotional than normal. I cry at very simple things, or at least choke up.
Tuesday, September 4, 2012
Saturday, August 4, 2012
Monday, July 9, 2012
We've Been Matched!
We have moved forward with our adoption now that we are in our new home! We have been selected by an amazing birth mother (and family). We spent a wonderful weekend getting to know them and we are really happy with the way things worked out! We will get to find out the sex soon!
Saturday, March 31, 2012
Adoption Journey
We are finally moving forward with our adoption journey! We bought a new home last year and we are excited to finally be in spot we are comfortable with this huge leap of faith. Here is our bio book.
Bio Book
Bio Book
Thursday, March 1, 2012
Our New Home
It's been awhile since my last post. We've been busy with school, work, chores, life and the exciting part of selling our house and buying a new one! We moved into our new home August 1, 2011.
Thursday, March 18, 2010
New Day. New Outlook.
Today I woke up feeling better about things. So what if our equity loan didn't get approved. It's probably for the better. I was rather hesitant about pulling money from the house right now anyhow. We really want to buy a bigger house soon, especially with expanding our family and having that extra obligation to the house could be a bad thing.
Now it's time to refocus. Where do we need to make cuts? If we prioritize and sacrifice now to budget for the adoption it will help in the long run. Sure we already have a savings, but we also like to spend money and have the nice things that we work hard for. So any big purchase means something has to give. Strange to think of a baby as a large purchase...

While I am thinking up areas to cut costs and ways to raise funds, the thing that I am constantly thinking about is the home study. Why in the world do they need letters of recommendation from 4 friends and a family member? Why do they need references from our employers? Doctors letters? Fertility statements? Etc. Could you imagine how peaceful and perfect this world would be if everyone that decided to procreate had to go through this process before their eggs or sperm were released to them? Since when did my decision to parent become the business of my company? I find that a little intrusive, but I'll deal with it I guess.
"A child is God's opinion that life should go on."
Author: Unknown
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
The Start of a New Journey
It's been decided... Joe and I will adopt our baby. After 20 long months of "trying". And each month having the disappointment of a failed attempt we realized that being parents to A child was more important to us than being parents to a biological child. So now we have entered new territory. New emotions. New excitement. New setbacks. New disappointments.
First we began our research online for agencies and started asking questions to everyone we could think of. We quickly found an agency online that had a wealth of information and countless stories from adoptive families and birth mothers. They were upfront with their costs and provided resources about funding. I felt comfortable with them. After a few weeks we decided to send them a our pre-application and payment to get started. Within a few days they shipped us a huge packet of information containing the more in depth application, information on creating our adoption profile, the home study requirements that would meet the 50 states requirements and a book that housed every answer to every question possible. Now we were excited!!!!

Besides the questions we keep asking ourselves of what, if any, limitations of race do we want to have... The major question is, How are we going to pay for this?
In all the excitement that has thus far happened with feeling like we were going to finally get OUR baby... Today we experienced our first of probably many setbacks. We found out that our equity loan was not approved. So, now we must find other methods of financing this adoption. Goal $35,000. Paid so far: $195.
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